You Will Need The Courage To Move On

Once you are experienced with archetype shifting, you will be more than happy just to throw yourself into the deep end and deal with any tension and discomfort that arises. Now we can feel our Warrior, it’s time to use his energy to take some action, no matter how small those actions are. The way to surmount the psychic membrane that separates our archetypes is by making small, incremental steps towards the archetype we wish to transition to. If I’m feeling like a zombie from working too much and I see a woman I want to approach, I will often just go over and speak to her, regardless of the archetype I am currently expressing, because I know that I will be able to shift archetypes as I talk to her. For those new to this, however, you will find a gentler approach less daunting. Either way, you will need the courage of your Warrior to take the action you know you need to take, in spite of any discomfort, anxiety or fear you may feel. Small actions that move you, incrementally, towards your desired archetype. Going back to the computer programmer example we used earlier, an ideal situation would have actually been your prior preparation for just this eventuality. Knowing that your lunch breaks could be an opportunity to meet women, you should have been aware of your need to shift archetypes before even entering the cafe. Here is what you should have done as soon as you left your office. First, stop a stranger outside your office and ask them for directions. Now do it again to someone else.

The Center of Attention

You are now one step closer to the Peacemaker. Now stop someone again, ask them for directions, and then make an assumption about them. Quickly guess what they do, and see what they say. You have a smile on your face as best you can, and try to sound upbeat and positive. The energy you give is always the energy you get back. Now do the same thing, but instead of asking for directions, approach a woman by giving her a compliment. Nothing over the top, just a comment about what she’s wearing or that you like her style. You’re definitely escaping the confines of your Magician and getting into a more social, Peacemaker, space now. Let’s ramp things up a bit. Now when you enter the cafe, you will be feeling very different than you would have if you’d just slinked in here directly from your computer without speaking to a soul. When they ask you what you want, instead of mumbling something under your breath, you can now give them your order loud and clear, but also adding how’s your day going so far? and have a brief interaction with the barista. Now when you find yourself standing next to your dream woman, you will be far more firmly centred in your Peacemaker, and will be in a much better position to start a conversation with her.

See Yourself

Going back to our first example, what would you do if you hadn’t prepared, and found yourself in that situation, wanting to talk to a woman, knowing full well that you were firmly rooted in your Magician? I prefer the former, but here’s some suggestions for the latter. You could start by thanking the barista who brings you your coffee, then seeing if you can get a small interaction out of him. Then you could actually ask someone in the cafe if they know where something is in your city, but try your best to spark up a small conversation, maybe by making a few assumptions about the person and seeing if you can grow the conversation with statements. Am I right? Once you can get yourself to the point where you are engaging women in this way without too much discomfort and anxiety, and women are responding to you positively, it’s time to move on to the next level. Congratulations, the scariest part of the Red Knight Road is behind you! Most men are trapped at Level Two, thinking if they can just generate enough power by learning enough knowledge, that their power will override their fear of approaching women. Whenever they consider moving to the next level and find that the fear remains, they retreat back, telling themselves they’re not ready yet. Don’t fall into this trap. You will never be entirely ready. Courage is acting in spite of fear, not without it. Now, once you begin pushing yourself to approach beautiful women and start getting yourself into conversations, it’s time to hand the reigns over to the Peacemaker. The Peacemaker is the archetype of empathy and connection. This makes the Peacemaker the perfect archetype for building real connections with other people.

Monkey See, Monkey Do

Let’s see what tools we can give you to aid your Peacemaker in this endeavour. It’s time to build our conversational core. What the hell do we talk about, and where do we get the content from? The mental block that prevents all of us from having effortless conversations is our strained search for something good to say. We’re all searching for gold. In our rush to impress the other person we are constantly filtering ourselves, frantically scrambling to say something that we think she will like. What we need to do instead is a simple technique called Conversation Alchemy. Alchemy was the occult science of turning lead into gold. Instead of scrambling to find the golden words that will impress her, you have to use the Lead. Make a statement about the last thing she just said. Forget about the Gold, take the Lead that she gives you, and use it, no matter how low quality the Lead ore seems. The conversation topics come from her. You don’t invent them. You don’t create them in your mind. She gives them to you. Your job is to use Conversation Alchemy to turn that lead into gold. But every Alchemist begins with lead. Is that right though?