A Culture Of Instant Gratification

Passion is a double edged sword. He hangs on to her every word and explores her mind and body with the hunger for a truth that can never be known. We live in a culture of instant gratification filled with men who have access to their Lovers, which is why the Warriors of the world get so much attention from women. Magician, take over, you can work out what magic words to say to her to make her like us!. If a man learns to harness his Lover and channel it when he is interacting with women, he will have access to an attraction power rare among modern men. Remember my friend Marcus who I mentioned earlier, the guy who lost the woman to the piano playing Magician? The reason that story stuck out in my mind is because it is very unusual for Marcus to lose a woman to anyone. Having the strongest connection to the Lover out of anyone I know, Marcus is adored by everyone who meets him. I have lost count how many times I have mentioned Marcus in passing to a woman, only to hear, aaww, I love Marcus! I remember asking Marcus one day what his secret with women was. Why did they adore him so much? I thought this was just what he thought he was doing, but really there would be some other magic technique or strategy that he was actually using without being aware of it, and I just had to discover the secret source code beneath the surface. It took me years to actually understand what he meant, only finally clicking once I started developing this archetype model. It wasn’t until I discovered the Lover masculine archetype that I understood the truth behind what Marcus had told me all those years ago. He delighted in women.

Life Will Throw Curve Balls At You

He appreciated them. He openly expressed his joy, his happiness at being in the presence of a beautiful, amazing, unique, profound mystery. Instead of judging women, categorising them, rating them in hotness, he chose to love them. He would actively look for something to love about them. A woman talking to Marcus feels like she’s the most important woman in the room. Where other men try to act disinterested and aloof, fearing appearing too keen, keeping themselves safe from her disapproval or rejection, the Lover has no such limitations. He knows nothing of rejection, at least in the way most people experience it. For the Lover, rejection is just another colour in the majestic tapestry of life. Women feel this, and easily get swept up in his enthusiasm and delight. Marcus delights in women, and they delight in him in return. Every form of addiction is bad, no matter whether the narcotic be alcohol or morphine or idealism. Because the Lover lives in the world of the senses, without limitations and boundaries, without the balancing effects of the other archetypes he gets easily consumed by the world of the senses.

Point Blank

The man trapped in the Lover archetype can quickly slip into addiction, forever seeking to quench his thirst for more sensual experience. The Lover is incredibly attractive to women, but without the other aspects of the masculine psyche to balance him out, the Lover can start to lose his appeal. In the ever changing landscape of life, the Lover is at the mercy of every outside influence, lacking any direction, planning or strategizing himself. The Lover can entertain a woman, entrance a woman, and give her leave from the worries and fears of life, but he cannot teach her, guide her or protect her. Just how a Lover stands out from a crowd of worrying Magicians or driven Warriors, a room full of Lovers leave her craving someone with purpose, focus, direction, boundaries and leadership. Ultimately, a woman can’t surrender to a Lover completely because she can’t entirely trust him. He swims through life in constant reaction to his senses, lacking a solid center from which to fall back on. If she pushes a Lover, he gives way immediately, always choosing the easier, more pleasurable path. For the feminine that is herself ever moving, and ever changing, the lack of solidity of the Lover will soon leave her in want of something solid that she can trust. When life has our backs up against a wall, and we feel like we’re fighting the fight of our lives, we lose our connection to the Lover. When life sucks, we prefer to anaesthetize our psyche from the pain of the present moment by seeking refuge in our other more detached archetypes, and because of this, we lose a powerful attraction ally. I sympathise completely, as someone who’s primary archetype is the Magician I know very well the abandoning of the Lover in order to strive for a change of circumstances.

It's Okay To Look Back

But it is to my own detriment. When I’m in this state women can sense my detachment. They feel the lack of life, passion and excitement. So no matter what you are facing in life, it is important to keep the relationship with your Lover alive and healthy, if for no other reason than to provide you with a compelling reason to keep striving forward. Passion makes a person stop eating, sleeping, working, feeling at peace. A lot of people are frightened because, when it appears, it demolishes all the old things it finds in its path. No one wants their life thrown into chaos. That is why a lot of people keep that threat under control, and are somehow capable of sustaining a house or a structure that is already rotten. They are the engineers of the superseded. On the one hand, it gives your life meaning, excitement and joy, and on the other it offers misery, frustration and restlessness in response to all the things in your life that it disapproves. It is easier, then, to suppress and quieten the Lover, for he has nothing but pain to offer a man in this situation.