Be Willing To Make Changes And Adjust Your View

When the issue of compromise arises, it is fine if you decide to take a moment and ask yourself if the issue at hand will be a major concern in the future. What would it matter in a few years from now If I decide to compromise now? This means that you have to weigh the facts carefully for future sake. So, using time in the future as a lens, you should bring the issue into perspective. Before you got to this point, you might have been used to making decisions on your own, right? So, now things have changed a lot, and you have to consult your spouse or partner on important decisions. Also, you and your partner will now have to place your marriage relationship beyond your personal preferences. It would not help if you still view this decision as a setback for you, it would be better to think more of the advantage. Remember that two good heads are better than one. Hence, when you get to combine your partner’s ideas with yours, you can get to a solution that is better than what each one of you could come up with individually or alone. Although you do not necessarily have to agree with your partner on everything, you still have to be sincerely open and consider their position. So, you need to place yourself in your partner’s shoes and sincerely ask yourself what the situation looks like from their perspective, and not from your perspective this time round. Doing this is a great way to expand your ability to be empathetic. Consider how the issue in question and your decision will impact your partner, remembering that compromise is teamwork as much as relationship is.

Cross My Heart

To reach a compromise, it is helpful if the partners in a relationship could develop a mental disposition that accepts making a sacrifice. Remember to make treat your partner as you would expect them to treat you. This means that you have to consider conceding, it doesn’t mean losing, it only means that you are accepting a third choice in your relationship other than your choice and your partner’s choice that are already there. It also means that wining your partner should not be your priority. Your priority should be to incorporate your needs and desires a well as your partner’s needs and desires and then create a common ground with these needs put together. When both of you make a decision perhaps, through compromise, you will both be happy as a couple. Flexibility is an important factor in making compromise work. You should be open to changes and be willing to make adjustments. If your approach to your relationship comes with a rigid attitude, you may not be able to find a way out and your relationship will be stagnated. It pays to stretch yourself sometimes with new challenges and accept new positions, especially in your relationship. So, these are the factors to consider when you are going in for a compromise. These factors will always play out in helping you meet your partner on the middle ground.

Taking The Trouble

The next thing to consider is how to approach compromise. When you feel that the best alternative to resolving a standstill is compromise, how would you do it? We will now consider how it works, or how you can do it with your partner so that everyone will be happy in the end. The tone of voice that is used to start a conversation is often the tone of voice in which the conversation will end. If you begin your discussion with harsh words or a hash tone, the chances are that you may not reach a peaceful compromise with your partner, and the conversation may end in a stalemate. So, to reach a peaceful compromise, it is often best to start right by clothing your words with favorable and appealing qualities such as kindness, love, compassion, humility, mildness, and patience. Letting these qualities guide your speech will help you and your partner to avoid arguing and work together to resolve any peacefully. Avoid the ’It’s Either My Way or the Highway’ Attitude. The first challenge or issue with fights is that everyone involved doesn’t want to be at fault. No one wants to admit being at fault, hence everyone wants to be right! Our aim is just to win, no chance to lose. We can understand why you feel that way, but you do not really need to always feel that because when you are only aiming to win, you will not be inclined to listen attentively and empathetically to the other side of the argument or conversation. You need to suspend your need to be right and listen to your partner. Sometimes, you would notice all your efforts to reach a peaceful compromise only escalate into heated arguments, and you wonder what is going wrong.

See Yourself

Well, it might just be that you and your partner are doing it the wrong way, for example, you and your spouse could be focusing too much on the areas where your views differ rather than paying more attention to where your views agree. To help you find common ground, think more about the aspects that you agree on, that is, the aspects you feel you could compromise. True, issues may be relatively easy to settle. But some other issues are more complex to resolve. When you get to face such a complex issue, it would be best to work together as a team in analyzing your options. You and your spouse can strengthen your connection by brainstorming a solution that perhaps one of you would not have been able to come up with alone. Rethink your expectations and be willing to implement the changes you have accepted to make. It’s one thing to say you’re willing to compromise, but quite a different thing to actually make the changes as you have both agreed. You will need to discern the intent behind their words and actions.