Doing Something You're Good At Is Amazing

Teaching forces you to arrange information in a way that makes sense to someone who can’t see inside your brain. After countless approaches and rejections, I started noticing patterns. I started to get really, really good. Not only was I learning how to approach and interact with women, I was also learning about the female spirit and how femininity shone through the lens of every culture in a unique way. It took thousands of approaches and hundreds of dates, but after learning from every approach, rejection, and success, I got to the point where getting a date with a beautiful woman was as simple as going to the shops to buy some eggs and milk. All I had to do was go out on the streets, approach some women, and get their numbers. I had obtained a great superpower that few people in the world knew about. I never would have predicted this coming from my nerdy roots, but I turned out to be very good at teaching men how to approach women. Doing something you’re good at is amazing, but when doing it helps change lives, it is doubly so. Man, if only there was a company that specialized in teaching this. So, in early 2010, I started a coaching company that specialized in teaching men how to meet and attract women during the day. I invited Yad to join me as the head instructor for the company.

Only Forever

He was the one who had inspired and guided me in the beginning, plus he was also still the only guy other I knew who was approaching women during the day in such an honest, authentic way. Word of my company spread around internet forums, and we were eventually invited to speak at various dating and self development conferences around Europe. I spent the next four years building an international coaching company with instructors based in the U.K, U.S, and Australia, with live events running in cities all over the globe. The coolest thing about all of this was watching students transform right in front of my eyes. It took me years of experimentation and trial and error, but with me as a coach analysing every single approach like a mad scientist, students progressed much faster than I had done when I was learning. A guy would start the coaching trembling with fear and end it with a phone full of numbers from beautiful women. I started my journey with questions like, What do I say to make women like me? How do I stand out from other guys? After years of approaching women, dating women, speaking to women, dancing with women, and learning from women, the types of questions I was asking had changed considerably. I was no longer interested in the answers to those old questions. What can I do to like myself more? What is masculinity, and how can I acquire more of it? My questions had changed, now that the answers I was seeking were deeper and more profound, I was growing less inspired to only teach men the answers to these more surface questions. I wanted to teach them something more, something deeper.

Lost For Words

I wanted to pursue a new project, and Yad wanted to step up and assume a leadership role. The planets were aligned, and I did something I honestly never thought I would do. I sold my coaching company to Yad so I could start something completely new. We shook hands on a deal that would take us both in different, but new and exciting directions. We had come together as friends to create something amazing, and now we parted ways as friends in the same spirit. The transition wasn’t going to happen immediately, we both wanted time before the handover took place. Yad needed time to learn how to take over and run the business, and I needed to know what my next project was going to be. I was getting all the success I could have ever dreamed of. I noticed an interesting phenomenon occurred when I took time off from approaching women due to the demands of the business, though. I would go through periods of not talking to women for weeks, and sometimes months at a time while I focused all of my attention on my work. The less I approached, the less confident I felt myself becoming with women. When I did eventually go back to approaching, it would often take me a good week to return to my previous level of competence and confidence.

That'll Be the Day

In seemed that in order to remain confident with women, I had to be approaching and engaging them constantly. Now, of course, any skill, when left alone for a period, will atrophy. I wasn’t surprised when my ability to think quickly, to be witty, to be funny, to speak well, worsened when I took a break from approaching. My sense of manhood. The connection with my masculinity appeared directly connected to the reactions I was getting from women. If I got no reactions from women due to work commitments, I began feeling my sense of confidence in my manhood drain away. I would have had no choice but to resign myself to this fate, had it not been for an altogether different perspective that I had begun to attain as I started developing what was to become the Red Knight curriculum. The passion I felt for the work I was doing, and the sense of mission and purpose that burned within me began to change the way I felt about myself in a way that nothing else had ever done. Where with the previous company I had started to lose motivation, with Red Knight I felt like I was doing exactly what I was put on this earth to do. I was decoding and systematising something that was a mystery to most men, and it felt amazing discovering the Why behind everything I had been doing and teaching for the past eight years of my life.