Extroverts Are Seen As More Attractive

I’ve experienced my own degree of social anxiety in the past so I know the feeling well. The mistake I believe that people make, though, is that they identify with their Social Anxiety. They feel anxious in certain social situations, then self diagnose themselves as suffering from social anxiety, like it was a medical condition they had no control over. The Magician’s can’t think because of all of the stimulus coming in from all sides, and the perception, receptivity and empathy of the Lover and Peacemaker mean all you experience is the overpowering personalities of everyone around you. Back to my student in New York, he was suffering from severe social anxiety and was left completely incapacitated, I intervened. Any attempt to get him to approach women was met with him freezing on the spot, unable to move his feet, with a look of terror on his face. So, I decided to try a different approach. The world was pushing against him, and he was struggling to remain calm in the onslaught. He needed to experience the wild, primal man within him that could dance with the chaos. He needed to feel the presence of his Wildman. Time to get a little crazy. What’s my name? I asked him? Sorry, I can’t hear you, it’s pretty loud, I replied.

Watch Yourself

He looked at me confused. Sorry, I said backing away from him one step, the long bustling Broadway street behind me, I can’t hear you, you’re going to have to speak up. Aslen, he said no louder than before with a worried look forming on his face as he started to register what I was doing. Sorry man, I still can’t hear you, I said, louder this time, taking a step further back. He looked around to see if anyone was watching. Aslen he said slightly louder. I started walking backwards. Sorry mate, still can’t hear you! I was really raising my voice now, leading him to do the same. Nope, can’t hear you! I was shouting now. People were glancing at me as they walked past. I kept walking away from him until there was no possible way for us to hear each other without us screaming at the top of our lungs. I can’t heeaaaar yooooou!! I screamed.

If Its Good Enough For You

After a long pause, he finally threw caution to the wind and bellowed louder than I thought he was capable, in the middle of the busiest street in North America. Satisfied, I returned to the student union. There was a red glow in his cheeks, but far from panicked and anxious, he looked elated. How do you feel? I asked. So, the key is screaming my name at the top of your lungs? Well, I’m not going to hold you back, but there is more than one way to achieve the same effect. He needed to do something powerful that would leave him no choice but to release his Wildman, sending his consciousness out of his mind, and into his body. By doing so he was able to release all of the anxiety and tension that had been building up over the afternoon, and by doing so, free himself of it. This happens to us all, but instead of expressing that tension, excitement, and anxiety by acting it out spontaneously through our Wildman Archetype, we bottle it up for fear of being judged negatively. We can get away with this providing the tension and anxiety doesn’t get too much, but we all feel the negative effects this has on our lives. Conversely, you may know people that have no quarms at all with getting excited, raising their voice, shouting, jumping up and down and bringing attention to themselves. You may despise them for this untactful, brutish behaviour, but all they are really doing is expressing their anxiety and excitement in a natural, authentic, spontaneous way. They don’t hold on to it or suppress it.

In A World Of Pain

They feel it, and they express it. Extroverts are seen as more attractive to women because their loudness and outward energy just expresses the most primal of the masculine archetypes. The Wildman is a man of little words. Without the balance of the other archetypes it can definitely be too intense and overpowering, but when it works, it works. When you are scared, nervous, or anxious about something you are doing, bring your attention into your body. Feel your body sensations and focus on them to bring your attention away from your mind machine. Start to experiment and play with the idea of expressing your inner tension and anxiety. But that very identification with victimhood keeps the soul house open and available for still more invasions. Most American men today do not have enough awakened or living warriors inside to defend their soul houses. And most people, men or women, do not know what genuine outward or inward warriors would look like, or feel like. Like the Wildman, the Warrior is an archetype that society tries to squash out of men, and for understandable reasons. Gone awry it is the archetype of war, oppression, violence, sadism and masochism. But like all the archetypes, much to the dismay of fanatical feminists, it cannot be suppressed without it erupting out in unhealthy, destructive ways. Because of this relationship with his higher purpose, the Warrior is also the archetype of emotional distance. Emotions could give rise to hesitation, and hesitation could give rise to failing his mission. A man in his Warrior energy knows it’s time to go to the gym, he might feel a flutter of emotion that tells him he doesn’t want to go, but he gets up, gets his gym gear and heads to the gym regardless. His mission is more important than his emotions. With women, a man in his Warrior energy may feel fear at the prospect of approaching a woman, but he just starts walking towards her. His mission is greater than his emotions. We’ve all felt this power within us at some point.