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We are told that masculinity is to be found in the pursuit of particular job roles, the acquisition of money and material objects,  and the  practice  of  certain  behaviours and mindsets.  In  your company, women  not only  feel seen and  understood,  but captivated  and  entertained as  well. The Lover  is  the domain  of feelings  and sensual  experience. From  the Lover comes not  just  our joy and  happiness,  but our excitement,  inspiration,  and  sense of  awe and  wonder. Our  Lover is the part  of  us that remains  firmly  rooted in our  inner  child who  experiences  life with  a perpetual  sense of novelty.  This connection  to  our joy  is something that  many men  in  the  world have lost  touch  with. A man with a strong connection  to his Lover is a  happy  man  who  feels  a  sense of  appreciation  and  gratitude  for  his life  and  the  things  in  it  he  loves.  A man following  his  bliss  is  a man in touch  with  his  Lover  archetype,  acutely  aware  of  what  he  loves  in  the  world.  We  all  want  to  be  happy,  but  the  Lover  wants  pleasure,  joy,  experience,  and  excitement  right  now.  For  women  accustomed  to  interacting  with  boring,  over  thinking,  serious  men,  the  Lover  is  a  refreshing  break  from  the  mundane.  Lovers  aren’t  concerned  with  getting  to  know  her in the conventional  Peacemaker sense. He is concerned  with  feeling,  with experience,  with  the  kind  of connection  that  exists beyond words.  
Staying True To  Your Heart
When  the Lover  talks to  women,  they  feel the  passion  and  lust  for  life  behind  every  word.  This  typically  gives  rise  to  the  Lovers  weakness,  however,  which  is the lack  of control,  boundaries,  focus  and  determination.  Lovers  change  course  at the  slightest  feeling  of resistance from  the  world.  Luckily  for  you,  this  is  a  weakness  that  you  don’t  have.  Not  only  do  you  have  a  deep  connection  to  your  loves,  passions  and  joys,  you  also have the power of discipline  and focus. You  can  expand  your  mind  to  include  the  mysteries  of  the  universe,  question  the  meaning of beauty and the purpose of life, but also reduce your consciousness down to a powerful laser, focused in on one mission,  one  objective,  one  goal.  The  Warrior  is the archetype  of  aggressive,  determined  action.  If  the  lover  were  symbolised  by  a  wavy  line  with no  beginning and end, the Warrior would be a straight line, starting from where you are right now,  finishing  where  you  want to  be.  It  is  probably  no  surprise  to  hear  me tell you  that women  are  attracted  to successful  men  with  ambition  and  drive. You  would  be  mistaken  to conclude  that  this  is  because  they  have  more  money  and drive  nicer  cars. Ambition,  drive,  success  are all  expressions  of  the  Warrior  archetype.  Once you understand  this,  you  will be able to  express the Warrior  archetype when  interacting with women,  irrespective  of  how  successful  you  actually  are.  Too Many People 
Your Lover  connects  you  to  your passions, feelings  and  desires,  but  your  Warrior  gives  you  the  determination  to  push  past  the  obstacles  that  inevitably  arise  when  pursuing  anything worthwhile. The  biggest  turn on for the feminine is to experience, first hand, that  you  are  stronger  than  her,  mentally  and  emotionally. She  wants to  feel that  you can’t  be messed  with.  She  wants  to  feel  your  Warrior. Because  you  have  a  solid  sense  of who  you  are  and  what  you  stand  for, you effortlessly  deflect criticism  and  actively  question  and  challenge  the  views and  ideas  of others that  differ from  your world  view.  You  are  a  man  on  your own mission, on your  own adventure, and,  if she behaves, maybe  you’ll  invite  her along for the ride? You will  never  find  the  real  truth  among people that  are  insecure or have egos to protect. Dorothy  finds  herself  in the  magical  land of  Oz  where  she  has to journey  down  the long yellow  brick road that leads  to the Emerald City. There  she  hopes to  find the  Wizard  of Oz, who,  with his immense  power,  may  be able to help her get back home. On her journey, she meets a tin man who doesn’t have a heart, a scarecrow without a brain, and  a  lion  lacking  courage.  Together  they  travel to the  Emerald  City  with  the  hope  that  the  great  Wizard  will  be  able  to  give  all  of them  the  help  they need.  What  they discover, however, is that the great wizard is just  an ordinary man with no power at all, and is powerless to give them what they desire.  His  greatness was a grand deception. Go Your  Own Way
His power, existing only in the minds of others. The yellow  brick  road,  then,  was a  road  of  illusion,  taking  its bearer  somewhere in  search of  something  that they would  not  find. This,  for my  purposes, is  a metaphor for the  mainstream  notion of masculinity. We are told that at the  end  of  this  road  there  is  a  magical  Emerald  City,  and  once  we  get  there,  we  will  find  the  sense  of  strength,  centeredness,  security and confidence that we feel lacking  within  us.  But  when we get there, we  discover  that  it  was  all  an illusion.  What  Dorothy  wasn’t  told  by  the  good witch of the North, was that there  exists a second road. Watch the  part  of  the  1939  movie  where  they  sing I’m  off  to  see  the  Wizard,  and  you’ll  see,  spiralling  from the  centre,  just  like  the  yellow  brick  road,  but  going  off  in  a completely different direction,  a  red  brick road.  The  opposite  direction  to  illusion.  Did the good witch  of  the  north  know  about  this road? Sometimes  the  only  way  for  us to  let  go  of  our  delusions  is  to  experience  fully the pain  that  comes  from  living  a  life  of  lies,  to  allow  them  to  ruin  us  so  that  we  can  finally  decide  to  let  them  go.  As William Blake said,  If the  fool  would  persist  in  his  folly  he  would  become  wise.  The  question is,  how  far  down  the yellow  brick  road  do  you  have  to  go  before  realising  it’s  all  a  lie?