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We are told that masculinity is to be found in the pursuit of particular job roles, the acquisition of money and material objects, and the practice of certain behaviours and mindsets. In your company, women not only feel seen and understood, but captivated and entertained as well. The Lover is the domain of feelings and sensual experience. From the Lover comes not just our joy and happiness, but our excitement, inspiration, and sense of awe and wonder. Our Lover is the part of us that remains firmly rooted in our inner child who experiences life with a perpetual sense of novelty. This connection to our joy is something that many men in the world have lost touch with. A man with a strong connection to his Lover is a happy man who feels a sense of appreciation and gratitude for his life and the things in it he loves. A man following his bliss is a man in touch with his Lover archetype, acutely aware of what he loves in the world. We all want to be happy, but the Lover wants pleasure, joy, experience, and excitement right now. For women accustomed to interacting with boring, over thinking, serious men, the Lover is a refreshing break from the mundane. Lovers aren’t concerned with getting to know her in the conventional Peacemaker sense. He is concerned with feeling, with experience, with the kind of connection that exists beyond words. 
Staying True To Your Heart
When the Lover talks to women, they feel the passion and lust for life behind every word. This typically gives rise to the Lovers weakness, however, which is the lack of control, boundaries, focus and determination. Lovers change course at the slightest feeling of resistance from the world. Luckily for you, this is a weakness that you don’t have. Not only do you have a deep connection to your loves, passions and joys, you also have the power of discipline and focus. You can expand your mind to include the mysteries of the universe, question the meaning of beauty and the purpose of life, but also reduce your consciousness down to a powerful laser, focused in on one mission, one objective, one goal. The Warrior is the archetype of aggressive, determined action. If the lover were symbolised by a wavy line with no beginning and end, the Warrior would be a straight line, starting from where you are right now, finishing where you want to be. It is probably no surprise to hear me tell you that women are attracted to successful men with ambition and drive. You would be mistaken to conclude that this is because they have more money and drive nicer cars. Ambition, drive, success are all expressions of the Warrior archetype. Once you understand this, you will be able to express the Warrior archetype when interacting with women, irrespective of how successful you actually are. Too Many People
Your Lover connects you to your passions, feelings and desires, but your Warrior gives you the determination to push past the obstacles that inevitably arise when pursuing anything worthwhile. The biggest turn on for the feminine is to experience, first hand, that you are stronger than her, mentally and emotionally. She wants to feel that you can’t be messed with. She wants to feel your Warrior. Because you have a solid sense of who you are and what you stand for, you effortlessly deflect criticism and actively question and challenge the views and ideas of others that differ from your world view. You are a man on your own mission, on your own adventure, and, if she behaves, maybe you’ll invite her along for the ride? You will never find the real truth among people that are insecure or have egos to protect. Dorothy finds herself in the magical land of Oz where she has to journey down the long yellow brick road that leads to the Emerald City. There she hopes to find the Wizard of Oz, who, with his immense power, may be able to help her get back home. On her journey, she meets a tin man who doesn’t have a heart, a scarecrow without a brain, and a lion lacking courage. Together they travel to the Emerald City with the hope that the great Wizard will be able to give all of them the help they need. What they discover, however, is that the great wizard is just an ordinary man with no power at all, and is powerless to give them what they desire. His greatness was a grand deception. Go Your Own Way
His power, existing only in the minds of others. The yellow brick road, then, was a road of illusion, taking its bearer somewhere in search of something that they would not find. This, for my purposes, is a metaphor for the mainstream notion of masculinity. We are told that at the end of this road there is a magical Emerald City, and once we get there, we will find the sense of strength, centeredness, security and confidence that we feel lacking within us. But when we get there, we discover that it was all an illusion. What Dorothy wasn’t told by the good witch of the North, was that there exists a second road. Watch the part of the 1939 movie where they sing I’m off to see the Wizard, and you’ll see, spiralling from the centre, just like the yellow brick road, but going off in a completely different direction, a red brick road. The opposite direction to illusion. Did the good witch of the north know about this road? Sometimes the only way for us to let go of our delusions is to experience fully the pain that comes from living a life of lies, to allow them to ruin us so that we can finally decide to let them go. As William Blake said, If the fool would persist in his folly he would become wise. The question is, how far down the yellow brick road do you have to go before realising it’s all a lie?