Assume Intention And Focus

Patience is a little more boring than making quick decisions and being impulsive. This doesn’t mean extinguishing your light but rather brilliantly shining it in the right direction, place, and time. Patience involves restraint, dealing with delays, and being peaceful with however the future plays out. Patience lacks drama. It lacks rush and impulse. It also assists in planning or visualization. By becoming a bit less exciting, your light may shine even more brightly and clearly. Your light may assume intention and focus. Understand that your impatience may hurt others. Impatience can have a negative impact on others that is often hard to measure. If you feel like your patience is running thin, perhaps pause and don’t take any action. Don’t say anything and don’t do anything.

All I Need

You’ll most likely regret words spoken or actions taken when they are not coming from a loving place. Patience is often learned. The following questions will help you discover where your impatience is coming from and help you learn about your behavior. When you are impatient, what part of yourself are you coming from? Are you being vindictive? Are you rushing to do it first? Are you in a place of financial desperation, loss, grief, or despair? Are you really paused and patient and thinking about what you are saying and doing? What is your behavior as a result? Is it light or dark? Is it from your heart or your hurt? Are you going to hurt someone? Are you trampling all over someone to get what you want quickly? Put time and patience into perspective. There are levels of urgency as there are levels of patience. Some moments can’t wait. I absolutely wouldn’t have wanted the team of doctors saving my life in 1998 to step back and claim, Patience, everyone. Let’s see how this plays out for this young lady. I’m sure they were adequately patient in applying lifesaving techniques and didn’t all rush to do the same thing at once, but they did have high urgency levels. I’m also glad they didn’t wait it out. Is the matter urgent? You may feel a sense of urgency and impatience, but the situation itself is nonurgent. Patience along the way also helps you incorporate a change into your life and to help it become part of your routine.

Torn And Frayed

You wake up in the morning and begin to accept the change into your life and all that comes with it. In my case, the day I decided to lose twenty pounds meant I knew I wasn’t going to wake up the next day with all twenty pounds gone, despite my wishes. The acceptance came when I made peace with myself to do the work needed to change. Once I did that and implemented small changes, the weight began coming off. I also have made peace with the fact that my body has changed and no longer likes the amount of salt and sugar I was eating previously. Think about a time when you wanted to something to happen before it could or would actually happen. Think about a date or event in the future. Think about your excitement or anxiety levels with respect to the date or event. Is it something you want to have happen or not have happen? Are you happy, sad, scared, overjoyed? How are you feeling? Between now and then, how are you going to deal with the wait? The same concept applies to us as adults. Ask yourself why you are in a rush or why you can’t wait. Are you hurting someone with your actions, including maybe yourself? Do you have any alternatives? Some examples I’ve seen of larger issues at play for people feeling rushed are age, health, and finances. Are any or all real rushes? A new business takes time.

Shades Of Grey

Things must percolate. Percolate your patience also. Trust the universe to deliver. I recently took a poll in my social media accounts. I asked my followers and friends if they would rather have 1 million or 1 million hours. Nearly 100 percent of the 5,000 people who responded said they would rather have 1 million hours. I even increased it to 2 million and kept the same hours and nearly everyone still chose the time. How are you spending your time? Many people say they don’t have time to do things, which begs a discussion about time management. I know that sounds cliché, but your moments really do matter. Time is not an infinite resource for us each individually. Time marches on, but at some point, we stop marching. In fact, a lot of us scratch our head and wonder, Where did the time go? In fact, somehow the list grew longer. Recently I found myself wondering where all the time went as our sons started graduating from college. I went home, looked at pictures of them, and wondered why I hadn’t changed a bit and yet they’d all aged by ten years. The answer to managing your time rests with you and no one else. How are you spending your time and energy? Unfortunately, most of the time the change is only temporary, and we revert to our old ways without the proper tools in our bag for actually making life changes. However, the great news is that continual assessment and reassessment of ourselves enable change. Chances are, if you’ve set aside the time to do the work, you are open to and in the process of allowing the discomfort that accompanies growth. No, I don’t have data to back that up, but if you just stop and look around and live enough life, you see this pattern repeatedly. How are you going to spend your time? That leaves you with 262,800 hours. It just depends on the day and you. Life nibbles at your time, often without you even really knowing it. This section of the text is intended to get you thinking about your time and energy and realizing that nobody holds your power, energy, time, and decisions but you.