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Would you rather carry a light and peaceful load, or a heavy one? Becoming a new, bigger, more powerful you. I’m sure when you think about her, you think about what happened and what she did. Now I’d like you to just think about what it would be like if you weren’t mad anymore. What would change inside of you? Remember, this has nothing to do with her, but everything to do with you. Your resentment is yours. You created it, and you have the power to let it go. This is one of the biggest gifts you can give yourself, not to mention others. Because when you let go of resentments, when you give yourself the gift of peace, you are essentially giving back to the people around you. I found a journal of mine recently. People used to describe me as magnetic. Where did I lose that girl? I was letting the actions of men determine me. I was taking a stand for my happiness, my freedom, and my life. 
Isn't That Peculiar
Resentment is heavy. So is anger and bitterness. I certainly hope so. And I enthusiastically hope you do the same. It’s not about being vain or conceited. Because at the end of the day, it’s all about what you believe. And the most important part is what you believe to be true about yourself. How well do you treat yourself, in thoughts and in actions? Because if you think you can’t, you won’t. If you think you’re destined for failure, you’ll fail. Not to mention, you’ll be miserable in the meantime. And I don’t know about you, but I think that seriously sucks. So how do you think of yourself as a legend? Start by liking yourself. A Step Too Far
Say it out loud, say it in the mirror, say it to your dog. Notice your inner critic. Remember, you have bad days because you’re human and we all do. Accept it and move forward. Start over at number one and repeat. Along with being a legend is living like one. What about the people you keep in your life? What about what you say out loud about yourself in front of others? People are watching. And taking mental notes. Maybe not every single person in the same way, but as a whole, they will. The people that you’re around are treating you badly, and there’s your evidence. It’s a vicious cycle. One that will keep circling unless you change it. Make It Like A Memory
I don’t care who you are, what you’ve done, or what you currently think about yourself, you’re legendary, just as you are. You are the one thing you have 100 percent control over. You decide how you talk to yourself. You decide how you treat your body. You decide the people you let into your life. You decide what or who influences you. You decide what’s important to you and if you honor that or not. What decisions are you making on a regular basis that pertain to the above statements I just made? You set the bar for how others should treat you. You allow people in your life, and you allow them to treat you a certain way. If you don’t like it, ask them to change. If they won’t, change how much you see them. I don’t care if it’s your mother, your twin sister, or your boss. You put up with what you put up with. Again, it’s not about acting arrogant or conceited. It’s about living your life in a way that reflects and reinforces how amazing you are, both in how you treat yourself and how you allow others to treat you. It’s how we break the ice, bond, and ask for help. The truth is, more often than not, complaining accomplishes nothing. I do believe there is some good that can come out of conscious complaining, clearing, or venting. It’s perfectly fine and dandy to say out loud the thing or circumstance you don’t like. Complaining can serve you as long as you have the intent to vent, then shift and focus on the solution. Many people actually solve their own problems by saying them out loud. Some of my clients are this way. Don’t complain about anything you’re not willing to take action on. So what are you willing to take action on? First, try asking for what you want to change. Get clear on it before you talk to someone about it because sometimes we’re not even sure what we want to change. If it is a person who is doing something you don’t like, politely and respectfully tell that person how you feel and ask to come to some compromise so you can both be happy. Maybe this person wants to change the situation, too. You won’t know unless you ask. Whether it’s something about your job, or it’s your neighbor’s loud dog, just ask. If you don’t ask, and you’re focusing on what you don’t like and complaining about it all the time, you’re going to notice nothing but that. Nothing’s going to change if you don’t take action. Plus, if you wait and wait, tension builds. When you’ve finally reached your breaking point and decide to discuss it with the person, most likely you’re not going to be coming from a place of kindness and willingness to compromise. I mean, how do you feel when you complain about it? Do you feel like your best self? Or is it a case of you feel good for the minute you say it out loud and then back to feeling like crap about it? Complaining uses your precious energy and drives others away from you. Instead of expending that energy on negative things, spend it in positive ways. Love yourself and others. Mainly, stop complaining! The gospel truth here is you cannot truly love yourself if you are still beating yourself up for things you did in the past. The things you still mull over in your head could vary greatly.