You Are So Strong And Capable

Even dancing in public was a turning point from fear for me, and I loved it. I also loved that there was no tsunami anymore. Of course there are many things that can happen in life that can impact how confident and capable you feel in any given situation. The key thing to always hold close to your heart is that you are a resilient soul. Don’t see defeat, frustration, or perceived failure as an excuse to tap yourself out of the game and sit on the sidelines. You are so strong and capable. This is what I have told myself each and every time I face a hurdle in my life. The fear you may experience in moments where you are fully immersed in the mirage of uncertainty often presents you with a choice of how you will respond to it. In that moment, you can ask yourself several powerful questions that prompt inner reflection. How can I send my fearful thoughts love? What is the worst thing that can happen if my fears come true? How can I be more loving and compassionate to myself in moments of fear? How can I embody the energy of love? How can I completely accept my current reality right now? And most importantly, how can I Be the Love? Be willing to challenge yourself a little bit on a daily basis. I’m not saying that you should place yourself in dangerous situations daily that make you feel scared, like putting a scorpion in your mouth or walking on hot coals. I’m saying that it’s so beneficial to examine the boundaries of your goals and see how you can exceed your own perceived limits.

Outside Looking In

You could run an extra mile, or spend ten more minutes on your yoga mat, or drink two extra glasses of water in a day. The point here is to expand your mindset and create a collection of experiences where you can prove to yourself that you are indeed capable of venturing out of your comfort zone. This will make someone’s day when you acknowledge them for venturing out of their comfort zone. Supporting the success of others contributes to the collective energy of celebration. Do you ever build things up in your mind too much and make them more of a big deal than they actually are? When this happens, you’re more than likely to talk yourself out of whatever you might be considering doing. When the time came to make decisions or act, I would hold the belief that the outcome would have a catastrophic impact on my life in some way and that the stakes were too high to even try. The more I started to not be so intense with my approach toward the outcome of things, the more I let go of control, and things usually still worked out for the best. When I first started to learn how to speak onstage, I felt as timid as a mouse. My voice was quiet, my shoulders were rounded, and my core felt weak. However, I knew that even if I failed that the next speech would be better and give me experience to build upon. I cried, and I was very spilly with my emotions to the point that it diluted the intention of the speech. At that point, I embraced failure because I viewed each misstep as a bridge to improvement.

Kiss Your Past Good—Bye

When you fail, get back up again and keep going. The Universe will always reward your willingness. You can either stay stuck or you can dance your way out of your comfort zone into the sweet space of success. I was terrified to stand on a stage in front of possibly thousands of people and deliver a keynote speech. My mentor reminded me that if I’m prepared, I shouldn’t be scared. Learning the skill of speaking in front of others was way out of my comfort zone, but I committed to doing it because I knew that it would help me to reach and impact more people around the world. Ask yourself how you can say yes to additional scary and exciting opportunities in your life. It’s the gateway to your growth as a human being. Many years, when Sean and I first started the business, I refused to be on camera and do video, much to his frustration. He wondered how on earth we could scale our business if I didn’t want to be seen. You feel fear in the pit of your stomach, ask yourself how you could possibly venture out of your comfort zone to where the magic happens. Have you heard the saying that there’s no time like the present? All three are fabulous ways to meet the moment with a sense of awe and wonder.

There's Still Time For It

It gets you out of your head and into your heart every single time. If you feel afraid or trapped in your emotions in some way, then grounding yourself in your body is the perfect approach to feeling more empowered to take inspired action. What are you most afraid of in life? What is the worst thing that could happen to you? What is the best thing that could happen to you? What are you most excited about that could happen as a result of venturing outside of your comfort zone? What specific and defining experiences have you had in life that either made you afraid of change or made you embrace it? What are three steps of inspired action that you could take in the next seven days that would help you to do something out of your comfort zone? What are ways that you need support to move through this process emotionally? On my wedding day to Sean in 2013, we had traveled from Australia to Las Vegas for the special event. I had carefully packed my wedding dress but needed to send it to the local dry cleaners so that they could steam the wrinkles out of the white skirt.