Changing Your Beliefs Is Important

Healthy romantic relationships give us the support and encouragement we need to rise to these new and different challenges. Leading psychologists have shown that when you experience an extremely stressful situation, the mere touch of your loving partner can relieve your anxiety and pain. Believe it or not, your partner doesn’t even have to say a word. Just a quick hug, kiss, or touch will do the trick. Having a partner there, even just to listen to us when we are feeling down or frustrated, is just what we need to get something off our chest and let go of those negative emotions that can fester inside of us. With all of these benefits, it’s no wonder that researchers like myself are compelled to discover the secrets to a happy relationship and true love. Today, we survey and study all 746 individuals from the original study, even if they are no longer married to each other. To find a study group that was truly representative of everyone who was getting married at the time, we turned to the local county’s marriage licenses. Also, this county has a sizable black American population. We were also interested, originally, in couples who were matched in their racial background. Although interracial couples would make for fascinating research, these couples have different experiences with marriage and divorce, which was beyond the scope of the study objectives. The study began right after couples were married.

Big Daddy of Them All

Once couples divorced, we continued to follow both divorced individuals. Collect information from the couples together, and from individuals separately on their own. Survey divorced men and women about their divorce experience, the adjustment process, their children and family, dating experiences, new love interests, and new partnerships and marriages. Connect how the events in a marriage influence a divorce, and how divorce affects a person’s new relationships. Follow both black and white married couples and divorced individuals. Other research studies typically follow married couples for short periods of time, rely on couples who seek marital counseling, or recruit volunteers through advertising. In addition, couples in counseling are more likely to be experiencing marital problems than the average couple. This also meant that, eventually, we gained insight into the life of the typical divorced American couple as well. As you can imagine, these groups of individuals aren’t entirely representative of typical American people who divorce, date again, and find new love. In total, the men and women in my study answer close to one thousand questions, each time they are interviewed, on topics including disappointments and regrets from their first marriage, dating ups and downs, how they’ve adjusted to their divorce, what they did to cope, how their children have adjusted, what their current partnership is like, how they view getting married again, and ways their behavior has changed as a result of what they learned in their first marriage. Next, because views of marriage, divorce, and new partnerships are often complex and highly personal, we felt that these questions, at least by themselves, wouldn’t adequately capture the nuances of dating and relationships the second time around. This unusual and innovative technique allows men and women in the study to describe their experiences in their own words, and to tell detailed stories about divorce and dating.

More Than A Dream

Who better to tell you about their experiences than the actual people themselves! If the study participants ask for advice or suggestions, we provide a list of recommended counseling services in the area. This ensures that our study is unbiased, and a true reflection of what really happens in relationships in today’s society. The average educational level included one year of postsecondary schooling, although some spouses did not finish high school and others were in graduate school. About 55 percent of the black couples and 22 percent of the white couples had children before marriage. About 65 percent of the black couples and 41 percent of the white couples had lived together before marriage. You’ll learn to forget everything you thought you knew about dating after a divorce or breakup. You’ll let go of the emotional baggage you may be carrying around from your past relationships, along with the mountain of hurts and issues that can easily get in the way of a healthy new relationship. You’ll commit to an action plan for 21 days, which will bring good habits and new, positive behaviors into your life. These behaviors will open up new opportunities to meet people, change how you see yourself, and change how others see you, too. I’ll show you how to focus on your needs and desires in a partnership, which will help you to define the type of person who’s just right for you. You’ll explore the vast and exciting world of dating, and I’ll reveal the top three ways to meet someone new. I’ll also show you how to make a lasting first impression, which will greatly increase your odds in the dating pool.

Take It Or Leave It

You’ll learn if a new relationship is the right one for you. Finding love again will take a little bit of time, but it’s oh so worth it. So what are we waiting for? Or that men, not women, are more likely to fall in love with someone who doesn’t love them back? Think back for a minute about your past relationships. Do you feel like you’re making the same mistakes over and over again? Are you hesitant to jump back into the dating scene because your heart’s been broken? Are you having a hard time getting over your ex, or do you feel angry or burned by your divorce? You are currently seeing someone, do you feel like your relationship is in trouble or has lost its spark? Many of these feelings stem from frustration and the belief that your relationships just haven’t worked out the way you thought they would. But the truth is, our expectations about love, men, women, and how relationships should be are very different from how events play out in real life. Changing your beliefs is important.